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I'm from Michigan, she's from Illinois. Two sisters from different backgrounds brought together in August of 1985. It was my freshman year and I wasn't feeling the best about my decision to leave my friends and family for Tallahassee, FL. My best friends decided to stay in Michigan for college, but I had decided to take a different road, and headed to Florida A&M University (FAMU). It was the "Dear Superstar" letter and scholarship from Dean Sybil C. Mobley that made the difference for me and countless other "Superstars" from all over the country. Now, I was beginning to have second thoughts about my courageous decision. Was it courageous or outrageous?
Classes started and I noticed a girl with glasses, blue jeans with pink stripes on them, and a pink shirt. She was in every one of my classes. I believe it was in our French class that we decided to sit next to each other. We were inseparable from that day forward for 5 consecutive years (minus the time we were on internships).
I must admit, I was a bit sheltered growing up in Saginaw, MI where many people in my circle and community came from two parent households. Most people had a pretty comfortable, middle-class upbringing, not wanting for much. My girlfriend, on the other hand, was from a single parent household. At the time, I had no idea of the magnitude of the struggles many single mothers go through each and every day to provide for their children. This is why I'm in such awe of single mothers and fathers!! Their sacrifices are amazing!
So, when my girlfriend announced to me that she had run out of money and was going to have to go back to Illinois, I was devastated! We both had thoughts about how her life would be if she left school and returned home. I decided that this was not an option. I told her that my parents sent money for me every month, and I would share my money with her in order for her to stay in school. Education is the great equalizer. Education changes lives. Education saves lives. Education destroys cycles of poverty. My girlfriend had to get her degree! I could not and would not let her leave!
Shortly after we graduated from our beloved FAMU, my girlfriend sent me a letter that brought me to tears. She thanked me for my sacrifice, and said, "I feel like I owe you my life and more." I was deeply touched, but thought nothing of my decision to help her, because she was my sister. I knew she would do the same thing for me. She asked me to share our story in this blog in order to encourage and inspire other girls and women to provide love and support to their sisters.
Today, she is a Sr. Level Executive with 3 amazing children and an amazing husband who is also a Sr. Level Executive. She is an awesome, loving, and kind person with a heart of gold. I'm honored to know her and blessed to have given her a gift that keeps on giving and providing for her family, even to this day. Remember to LOVE your Sisters! The Revolution of LOVE has begun!
Peace and Blessings,
One of the "51 Ways To Love Your Sister" is Forgiveness is a must. Boy, is this a tough one! I have had experiences in my life where I felt I was wronged, mistreated, and misused. These are always very difficult situations to deal with. Early in my life, forgiveness was very difficult. If I felt that a person's intentions were harmful to me, I excommunicated them from my life. They simply did not exist anymore from my perspective. Then, one day along my spiritual journey, I discovered the power of Forgiveness. It was life-changing! I had friends who I missed dearly because I had elected to cease interacting with them. Forgiveness, though very difficult to practice, has a profound affect on your life. I have experienced more joy and peace than I've ever experienced, now that I've learned to Forgive. If there is someone in your life who needs Forgiveness, make a point to give it to them TODAY, for we know that tomorrow is not promised. Use The Sister Accord to begin the difficult conversation. Be transparent. Acknowledge your shortcomings and need for Forgiveness as well. I have heard from girls & women all over the world who have told me that the principles of The Sister Accord has had a positive impact on their lives, and in their relationships. Give it a try and share your story with me and the rest of the girls & women who are 1 in a BILLION!!!
Remember to Love Your Sisters,
Written for Being Single Magazine Online
It would be hard for me to imagine a workplace without other women to talk to or enjoy lunch with. We can sometimes take these relationships for granted and not understand how blessed we are to have “Sisters” in our lives. I founded “The Sister Accord, The Promise That Will Transform Your Life!” to remind women of three things:
- The importance of giving love and getting it in return
- The importance of treating our sisters like the rare, precious gems they are.
- The power of living a life that is balanced and fulfilled physically, mentally and spiritually through strong relationships with other women.
If you are “Keeping Your Sister” and taking good care to nurture your relationships, love will be at the center of all of your thoughts, words, and deeds. If you love your sister, you will ensure that your every action towards her will do good and not harm. As The Sister Accord states, your every encounter should be uplifting. Who wants be around negative people who drain and suck the life out of you with every conversation? If you are determined to “Keep your Sister,” you will give her love each and every day.
Remember the three E’s: Engagement, Encouragement, and Enlightenment.
Engagement…If you love your sister, you will find time to talk to her, time to listen to her, time to just “be” with her. Engaging your sister shows that you love her. If you love your sister, you will encourage her and lift her up when she’s feeling down. You will be the wind beneath her wings, giving her energy to face her fears with courage and strength.
Encouraging your sister shows that you love her. If you love your sister, you will share your knowledge of all that is good. You will connect her with other good people who will continue to build her network and skills. Enlightenment and constructive conversations will show your sister that you love her. Love is a two way street ~ you have to give it to get it!
Do you have emeralds or rubies, sapphires or diamonds? What do you do to preserve these precious gems? How do you treat them? What do you to show how much you value them? Whatever you do to take care of your precious gems is what you should do to take care and nurture your relationships with your sisters. In order to keep them in good condition, you may clean your gems. It’s important to keep your relationships with your sisters clean.
Do you know what types of things can dirty a relationship? Gossip, Lies, and Deceit are just a few things that can make a relationship dirty. Vow to keep your relationships clean with your sisters!
Another way you may take care of your gems is to have insurance on them in the event that they’re lost. You should also have insurance on your relationships with your sister(s). The insurance policy for your relationships can be summed up in one word…Forgiveness.
Forgiveness doesn’t have a high deductible and doesn’t cost anything from month to month. Forgiveness will ensure that you never lose your sister!
Living a life that is fulfilled physically, mentally, and spiritually will give the balance that is needed to be happy. Strong relationships with your sisters are the foundation of having Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control.
When our bodies aren’t working in sync and if any one aspect is out of control, we will not be able to live life according to our purpose.
Sisterhood is the gift that keeps on giving and our daily actions will either keep these relationships in tact or break them at record speed.
I will ask the question again….Are you a Sister Keeper? If not, perhaps you will begin today to become one.
Sonia Jackson Myles